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Let’s talk Purpose.

Operation: Iris is back today! ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒธ
We talked about a lot in the last Operation: Iris post. So much so that I had to question what the next post should be about. I could talk in depth about terms like:
๐—ง๐˜„๐—ผ-๐—ฆ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜ -Holds the spirit of both male and female. Derived from Native Americans. 
๐—ฆ๐—ธ๐—ผ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น -attraction to non binary/trans folk.
And ๐—ฆ๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น -attraction to intelligence.
But my knowledge and personal experience with individuals who identify with those are very limited and I would prefer speaking with them before talking in depth about those identities. (Shoot me a DM if you do and would like to chat!)
So instead, I wanted to talk about the importance of all of these confusing terms. ๐ŸŒˆ
A concern about this initiative from others has been about how โ€œsillyโ€ some of the these terms seem and that the more visibility towards these lesser known terms, the more Non-LGBTQ+ folk will make fun of the community.
Whether you choose to wear your โ€œLetterโ€ like a badge or keep it to yourself or family/friends is entirely up to you. The purpose of this initiative is to provide awareness to those who may โ€œfeel differentโ€ than everyone else and think there may be something wrong with them. By having a word to describe your feelings towards your sexual/gender identity and knowing there are others like you, it gives a sense of validity and can lead to resources in helping a person deal with what they might be going though. Being able to identify yourself is the first step in growing and becoming the best person you can be.
And to address the individuals who fear these terms will cause people to hurt others and make a mockery of the LGBTQ+ community: the more effort that is made in bringing these lesser terms to light, the more knowledge and eventual acceptance will be made from these folks. Things arenโ€™t going to change unless we do something about it. ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒธ


How to Easily Identify and Understand LGBTQ+ Terms

Operation: Iris is back today! Today, I wanted to talk about how these confusing terms might be a bit more simple than you realized!

For some of these letters, I want to make it a bit easier to understand by breaking them down. Being apart of the LGBTQ+ Community means having a different Sexual, Romantic, or Gender Identity/Orientation than the โ€œnormโ€. Quite a few of the lesser-known (and VERY confusing) terms in the LGBTQ+ Space becomes a bit easier to understand when you notice they stem from adding prefixes to those three terms.

Sexual Identity/Orientation (or “-sexual“)– Most commonly gay, lesbian, and bi; Sexual Orientation refers the sexual attraction towards other individuals. (Example: bi-sexual meaning attraction towards two genders). Romantic Identity/Orientation (or “-romantic“)– refers to the romantic attraction towards other individuals. Romantic Orientation is often the thought to be the the same as Sexual attraction (and typically most feel this way), but can vary from person to person. (Example: a person can be bisexual, but homo(same sex)romantic. This would mean they find multiple genders attractive but only want a romantic relationship with an individual of the same gender.) Gender Identity (or “-gender“)– the โ€œTโ€ in LGBT; Refers to towards the innate understanding a personโ€™s gender. Gender identity or โ€œTransgenderโ€ is an umbrella term for any individuals whose gender identity differs from the one assigned at birth. Trans Males/Females being the most common, there are so many others that fall under this umbrella. (Example: last week we covered Agender meaning little to no gender identity.) And here are just a few of the prefixes used in the LGBTQ+ Spectrum.
โ€œAโ€ or โ€œaceโ€– Little to no.
โ€œDemiโ€ – Partial.
โ€œPolyโ€ – Many.
โ€œPanโ€ – All.
โ€œHomoโ€ – Same
โ€œHeteroโ€ – Opposite.
โ€œCeteroโ€ – Other.

Hope this helps you better understand where some of these terms got their name. NOTE: This does not include every term and some terms have been changed throughout the years because of discrimination. Never assume a person’s Sexual/Romantic/Gender identity.

Lastly, Iโ€™m looking to create a logo or design for โ€œOperation: Irisโ€, but I am not super artistic or creative. If anyone wants to be awesome and design one, youโ€™d be ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒธ

Let’s Talk Pronouns


plural noun: pronouns

a word that can function as a noun phrase used by itself and that refers either to the participants in the discourse (e.g. I, you ) or to someone or something mentioned elsewhere in the discourse (e.g. she, it, this ).

The term pronoun covers many words, some of which do not fall easily under the generic description of words that replace nouns. There are several different kinds of pronouns, including:

  • Personal pronouns (e.g., he, they)
  • Demonstrative pronouns (e.g., this, these)
  • Interrogative pronouns (e.g., which, who)
  • Indefinite pronouns (e.g., none, several)
  • Possessive pronouns (e.g., his, your)
  • Reciprocal pronouns (e.g., each other, one another)
  • Relative pronouns (e.g., which, where)
  • Reflexive pronouns (e.g., itself, himself)
  • Intensive pronouns (e.g., itself, himself)

โ€ฆ and that brings us to the end of the English lesson, because pronouns, specifically Personal pronouns nawadays are exhaustive, especially when trying to use them correctly.

We believe that it is important to give people the opportunity to state the pronoun that is correct to use when referring to them, as the incorrect use of pronouns can cause dysphoria. Mistaking or assuming peopleโ€™s pronouns without asking first, mistakes their gender and sends a harmful message. Using someoneโ€™s correct gender pronouns is one of the most basic ways to show your respect for their identity.

She/her/hers and he/him/his are a few commonly used pronouns. Some people call these โ€œfemale/feminineโ€ and โ€œmale/masculineโ€ pronouns, but many avoid these labels because not everyone who uses โ€œheโ€ feels like a โ€œmaleโ€ or โ€œmasculineโ€œ.

There are also lots of gender-neutral pronouns in use. Here are a few you might hear:

  • They/them/theirs (Shea ate their food because they were hungry.)
    This is a pretty common gender-neutral pronoun and it can be used in the singular. In fact, โ€œtheyโ€ was voted as the Word of the Year in 2015.
  • Ze/hir/hir (Tyler ate hir food because ze was hungry.)
    Ze is pronounced like โ€œzeeโ€ can also be spelled zie or xe, and replaces she/he/they. Hir is pronounced like โ€œhereโ€ and replaces her/hers/him/his/they/theirs.
  • Just my name please! (Ash ate Ashโ€™s food because Ash was hungry)
    Some people prefer not to use pronouns at all, using their name as a pronoun instead.

Never refer to a person as โ€œitโ€ or โ€œhe-sheโ€œ.
These are offensive slurs used against trans and gender non-conforming individuals.

Make a habit of introducing yourself with your pronouns, not just in LGBTQIA-specific situations. This makes sharing pronouns routine, instead of singling out certain people or communities. Try to avoid using the phrases โ€œpreferred pronounsโ€ or โ€œpreferred nameโ€ as these suggest an element of flexibility or that someoneโ€™s identity is less than valid. Someoneโ€™s name and pronouns are not suggestions and are not preferred over something else. They are inherent to who we are.

(This is NOT an exhaustive list. Any combination is possible!)

___ laughed.Ask ____!Thatโ€™s ____ pen.That penโ€™s ____.Did ___ enjoy _____?
xiehir (โ€œhereโ€)hirhirshirself

Keep in mind some people may use certain pronouns in some contexts and not in others due to a variety of factors, including safety. For example, a person may be openly transgender or trans* at work but not at home with their family. Some people use different names and different pronouns depending on the context. It can be helpful to clarify in what situations someone uses certain pronouns. Remember it is up to each person how and when they choose to share part of their identity with others.

Make a habit of introducing yourself with your pronouns, not just in LGBTQIA-specific situations. This makes sharing pronouns routine, instead of singling out certain people or communities.

Pronouns sourced from the USDavis LGBTQIA Resource Center
Other material sourced from: WikiPediaUCSFUWMilwaukee

Original post from Charlie | Transgender and proud of it

Let’s talk Demi.

We’ve talked Demisexual before, but I wanted to branch out to the other (even lesser known) Demi’s out there. There’s quite a few so I’ll keeping each short and I will likely skip out on a few here. Being that these terms are less common, this post took some research and speaking with a few individuals. if any of this information is inaccurate, please let me know and I will adjust.
๐——๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ – Umbrella term for everything we talk about here. Keeping it simple in describing as having a base identity and being partially, but not wholly connected to a certain gender. Demigender typically falls under the Non-Binary umbrella. Pronouns are usually They/Them (always ask first).
๐——๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—•๐—ผ๐˜† – Regardless of birth assigned gender, DemiBoy put simply means feeling partially, but not wholly masculine. Most common example would be a Non-Binary individual who slides a bit more on the male side, but does not fully identify as “Male”.
๐——๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—š๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—น – Same is above but “Female”.
๐——๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ก๐—ผ๐—ป๐—•๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜† – An example would be a Male or Female that feels partially, but does not fully identify as “Non-Binary”.
๐——๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—™๐—น๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—ฑ – This is where things get a bit more complicated. Trying to keep it simple, demifluid is like GenderFluid, but only feeling a partial connection to the associated genders. An example could be a individual who identifies with feeling more DemiMale, DemiFemale, and/or Agender at any given time.
๐——๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—™๐—น๐˜‚๐˜… – “-flux” is under the “-fluid” umbrella and often refers to the intensity of a gender. An example could be an individual who identifies as both Agender and DemiMale, but the DemiMale identity fluctuates in intensity (50%->25%->0%).
๐——๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—Ÿ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ผ – She’s an actress/singer. Not relevant to Operation: Iris.

Let’s talk Agender. (First Post)

Itโ€™s safe to say that most of us have a basic understanding of the four letters than in โ€œLGBTโ€. But what about the other sexual and gender identities that help make up the community? Throughout the next month, I will be going over some of the lesser known identities. ๐ŸŒˆ (UPDATE: this was before “Operation:Iris started and this became a long term project.)
You may have heard the term โ€œAsexualโ€ (having no sexual attraction), but what about โ€œAgenderโ€? A person who is Agender doesnโ€™t fall into any category of โ€œgenderโ€. The most common pronouns for an Agender individual are โ€œthey/themโ€. Also, any gendered phrases, such as, โ€œyeah, manโ€ โ€œthanks, hunโ€ or โ€œdudeโ€ may trigger dyphoria in Agender individuals.

So whatโ€™s the difference between Non-Binary, Androgyny, and Agender? Non-Binary is an umbrella term meaning anyone who fits outside of the typical โ€œmale/femaleโ€ genders. Androgyny is typically used as a term to describe looking neither male/female and is not typically used as a gender identity. Whereas Agender is a gender identity meaning โ€œno genderโ€ and falls under the Non-Binary umbrella. โ˜‚

Did you like this? Did it help you? Are you agender? Let me know in the comments/messages!

Also, if this interested you, I highly recommend checking out @ashhardellโ€˜s book โ€œThe ABCโ€™s and LGBT+โ€ ! ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒธ

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

โ€” Oscar Wilde.